Rapport is described in my thesaurus as a closeness, an understanding, having good vibes. When you disturb those vibes, however, your simpatico could easily go out the window.
When you work with people, you start to develop a rapport with them. However slight it may be, it still seems to give them a measure of comfort. Next thing you know they are telling you things about themselves. Some of those things you may not even want to know. It goes in one ear and out the other. Maybe it isn’t so much that they trust you any more or less than other people. It could be something they just needed to get it off their chest, and you happen to be the one there at the time.
Some of the people, the trust/comfort of it all is slight, and they only talk about their kids or their significant others. Still others, it is non-discretionary and they tell you everything, from what they had for dinner the night before, to the show they watched on the boob tube. They may even tell you things that may make you feel uncomfortable. They don’t seem to care to whom they are telling what, or who knows what.
Once you have been entrusted with such info it is usually, but not always, easy to decide who is whom. Which of your friends give a damn and which ones don’t. In my case I leave that up to the individual. If they want to tell everyone and their dad what is going on in their lives, that is their business.
There was a time in my younger day I was a chatter bug. Most of the time it was just a matter of not thinking. I would be sitting down for a drink or two and things would just come flying out my mouth before I opened my brain.
Do you know that when you run your mouth too much the rapport you built could be lost? Did you also know that the first two and last letters in rapport spell rat? Which in my neck of the woods is what we call people that ruin friendships with their mouths. Did you also know that in my neck of the woods, this is just one of the many great things my grandfather always used to say, being a rat, stoolie, or just plain running off at the mouth unintentionally, can get you in trouble.
We ain’t just talking about momma gonna spank you trouble either. I think I have said enough here……