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Boomer’s Rants (How not to)

Hello, it is my thinking anyone can write a book on how to do something.  From putting together a simple toy to constructing a log cabin.  I am going to write a book, probably a small one, about how not to get shafted by your ex.  You will note I did not say ex-wife.  I know a couple of women that are in the same boat as myself and many of my friends.  The tug boat, that is, of post marriage support.  Some of the lessons I learned are things I should have known.  Maybe deep down I did, but chose to ignore them.  Choosing to ignore red flags going off in my head used to be a bad habit of mine.  I have long since learned my lesson on that subject.  That one and a few others along the way have led me to here.  Experience really is the best teacher.  I do not plan on writing the whole book here in wordpress.  I just thought it can’t hurt to do a little advertising, while giving a wake-up-call type of  sneak preview.

Chapter one is probably going to be about ground rules and when to set them.  For instance, if you are going to allow your (no longer significant other) to keep the house.  Then something should be put in writing about who pays what and who gets what and when.  For example a friend of mine had gotten divorced and left his highly expensive sound system in the house.  When he went to retrieve it, he was told it was part of the house and now belonged to his ex-wife.  Soon after she sold it for fifty dollars to make a payment on a bill.  (OUCH).

Chapter two will more than likely deal with the time spent being separated.  No matter how you feel, or what you think about your ex. You cannot trust them to do things on the up and up.  Example:  Another friend of mine filed bankruptcy recently.  She had and agreement with her ex-husband.  The kids were going to stay with him and finish their education in Missouri.  She agreed to pay him support since she was moving to Nevada.  Meanwhile he was supposed to pay the bills associated with the house and any other bills they had accumulated.  Because the bills were in her name and he made no payments on them the collectors started coming after her.

She had no proof of the money she sent him, nor did she have any signed agreement stating where the money was to go.  The money basically went into his pocket, and she had no re-course.

I think you get the idea here.   I am not sure how many pages it will end up being or where I am going to try to sell my idea.  I do know, however, that I am not going to use a ghost writer.  As suggested by a family member that seems to have no faith in my talent as a writer.  I got it what about a “Divorce for Dummies”  book.  Because,sometimes, that is how I feel.

About Bigboomer

Hello, first of all I would like to thank you for visiting my blogsite. I am going to tell you a little about me. My name is Ray, I started writing back in high school. Every once in a while I would come up with a few ideas and would write them down. Most of which became poems others became short stories. Some of my inspirations are of the heart, some of them come from the thoughts of the day. You will see, as you browse threw my site my poetry is about as diverse as you can get. I hope that as you read them some will have you thinking of love, while others will make you feel sorrow. I would like some of them to set you off to an adventure. Finally, I have some poems that may make you hungry. I do have some inspirations that just plane turn into ramblings or rants as, if you read in here, you will see. I have managed to get two books published so far, the first one is titled Pathways, it may be found at xlibris.com/RayBohdan.html. there you can view a couple of excerpts form the book. The second book is Mingling Hues of My Mind it is at publish America A little bit more about me. I am fifty-one years old I have three children, Rainney, Elisa, and Anthony and two well, actually, three grandchildren Raeanne Marie, Graycee, and Amaya. I guess I could go on, but then I am afraid this will come out sounding like a dating profile. Part of my site will be dedicated to my poetry, I plan to break it down into different sections and organize it by type/style. Another section of this site will be dedicated to my blog it will be about my rants/thoughts of the day. These will vary from political, to personal, to comical. I will talk about most anything and everything that I feel may be of interest to someone. I also will devote a section to some of my favorite recipes with hints on how to capture his/her heart by winning their stomach. My favorite foods are Italian and Mexican, but this section will not be limited to those two types. I do believe however, that the most important part of my site will be the dedication pages. These will be to memorialize special loved ones and friends, as well as thank those that have made purchases of my afore-mentioned book. This is exactly what you think it is. A way for me to sell my self as a writer. Publicly get my words and thoughts out into the world. Please believe me when I say that this in no way demeans or diminishes my passions for the people and the love of which I have written, and will continue to write. I trust that once you read my poems you will feel the love i have felt, the pains I have been through, and the joys of life itself. Once again I thank you for stopping by please enjoy.


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