Hello, it is my thinking anyone can write a book on how to do something. From putting together a simple toy to constructing a log cabin. I am going to write a book, probably a small one, about how not to get shafted by your ex. You will note I did not say ex-wife. I know a couple of women that are in the same boat as myself and many of my friends. The tug boat, that is, of post marriage support. Some of the lessons I learned are things I should have known. Maybe deep down I did, but chose to ignore them. Choosing to ignore red flags going off in my head used to be a bad habit of mine. I have long since learned my lesson on that subject. That one and a few others along the way have led me to here. Experience really is the best teacher. I do not plan on writing the whole book here in wordpress. I just thought it can’t hurt to do a little advertising, while giving a wake-up-call type of sneak preview.
Chapter one is probably going to be about ground rules and when to set them. For instance, if you are going to allow your (no longer significant other) to keep the house. Then something should be put in writing about who pays what and who gets what and when. For example a friend of mine had gotten divorced and left his highly expensive sound system in the house. When he went to retrieve it, he was told it was part of the house and now belonged to his ex-wife. Soon after she sold it for fifty dollars to make a payment on a bill. (OUCH).
Chapter two will more than likely deal with the time spent being separated. No matter how you feel, or what you think about your ex. You cannot trust them to do things on the up and up. Example: Another friend of mine filed bankruptcy recently. She had and agreement with her ex-husband. The kids were going to stay with him and finish their education in Missouri. She agreed to pay him support since she was moving to Nevada. Meanwhile he was supposed to pay the bills associated with the house and any other bills they had accumulated. Because the bills were in her name and he made no payments on them the collectors started coming after her.
She had no proof of the money she sent him, nor did she have any signed agreement stating where the money was to go. The money basically went into his pocket, and she had no re-course.
I think you get the idea here. I am not sure how many pages it will end up being or where I am going to try to sell my idea. I do know, however, that I am not going to use a ghost writer. As suggested by a family member that seems to have no faith in my talent as a writer. I got it what about a “Divorce for Dummies” book. Because,sometimes, that is how I feel.