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Boomer’s Lessons “If It Don’t fit, Don’t Force It!”

This is a confession/apology of sorts. I had come to realize (quite a long time ago), that all the things that happen to me/us are more or less related to something I/we did or did not get right.  I am a firm believer in the adage(?). For every action we commit, or in some cases don’t commit, that there is a reaction. It is actually stated “for every positive action one commits there is a negative reaction somewhere.” For instance if you build a dam on a river to create a better reservoir for your land. You have now taken the water away from some one else down stream. It is in my opinion that there is a lesson in there about being careful how you handle things.  Just because something is a positive for you, does not mean it is a good idea. Every action has a reaction that may or may not be positive.One needs to take into account all adverse affects of there actions before going ahead with whatever one is planning. Especially when it comes to what will be a life changing situation. If you go into a situation half cocked you are liable to create bad vibes. You may even hurt someone’s feelings along the way. So you need to be thoughtful and careful. There have been times when I was neither. So here goes my confession. I was not the best husband in the world. There were many times when I would rather spend the night shooting pool and drinking with the boys after work than go home to my wife. The thing is I never really wanted to get married. Now in my defense I did not realize how deep the waters were before I jumped in. We were going to have a baby and I was excited about that.  I figured marriage was all apart of being a dad. I thought it was the responsible thing to do. I was wrong. I had taken a heart that trusted in me and hurt it because I was not ready for a full commitment. I love my children, I always have. The idea of being a father has always been amazing for me. However, the idea of being a husband was never anything I gave a lot of thought to. Yes, there were times when I loved being married, family vacations, and holidays were fantastic. Although as far as everyday life was concerned, not so much. So to my now ex-wife I feel I should apologize. I wholeheartedly believe I am here, in this life to be honest. I know we are all supposed to be honest. What I mean is I am meant to be the slap you in the face, wake you up to smell the coffee, kind of honest. The brutal honesty that we all need once in a while. I am not in this world to baby you, coddle you. I am here to motivate you into giving your life more thought. Anyhow, back to my point. I was not honest with her, or myself for that matter. So, because I got away from my real purpose, I was punished emotionally for my misdeeds. I was not allowed to have a meaningful relationship. As for my indiscretion, revenge is a dish best not served at all, cold or otherwise.*

The last relationship I tried to have, is in keeping with the title of today’s blog. I tried to force a round peg into a square whole, so to speak. Deep down I knew it was never really going to be what I wanted it to be. Yet I kept plugging away at it. It dawned on me that possibly it was due to the fact that I did not deserve a good relationship. At least not until I actually discovered my own truths. Fessed up to what my mistakes were and how I need to better myself.

I do feel I have earned back the right for a real relationship. I have done so in confessing my sins. Realizing the error of my ways, and getting back to being the man I am supposed to be. I would also like to announce that I am sure I have found that someone. I believe her, not only to be very special, but I feel she is my destiny.

*footnote: Where as mine was not the first infidelity in the relationship. Revenge was just an excuse for my own selfishness, which in turn was my own worst enemy.

Disclaimer: There must come a time when honesty has to play a part in every life. It should always be from the beginning, however, sometimes we do not see the forest through the trees. It may be that we really do not want to. A round peg will never fit into a square hole, and if things just aren’t right, it is not good to linger. It is not really fair to either party involved.

I wish you all a nice day hopefully I will see you on the radio blogtalkradio/Ramblinman

About Bigboomer

Hello, first of all I would like to thank you for visiting my blogsite. I am going to tell you a little about me. My name is Ray, I started writing back in high school. Every once in a while I would come up with a few ideas and would write them down. Most of which became poems others became short stories. Some of my inspirations are of the heart, some of them come from the thoughts of the day. You will see, as you browse threw my site my poetry is about as diverse as you can get. I hope that as you read them some will have you thinking of love, while others will make you feel sorrow. I would like some of them to set you off to an adventure. Finally, I have some poems that may make you hungry. I do have some inspirations that just plane turn into ramblings or rants as, if you read in here, you will see. I have managed to get two books published so far, the first one is titled Pathways, it may be found at xlibris.com/RayBohdan.html. there you can view a couple of excerpts form the book. The second book is Mingling Hues of My Mind it is at publish America A little bit more about me. I am fifty-one years old I have three children, Rainney, Elisa, and Anthony and two well, actually, three grandchildren Raeanne Marie, Graycee, and Amaya. I guess I could go on, but then I am afraid this will come out sounding like a dating profile. Part of my site will be dedicated to my poetry, I plan to break it down into different sections and organize it by type/style. Another section of this site will be dedicated to my blog it will be about my rants/thoughts of the day. These will vary from political, to personal, to comical. I will talk about most anything and everything that I feel may be of interest to someone. I also will devote a section to some of my favorite recipes with hints on how to capture his/her heart by winning their stomach. My favorite foods are Italian and Mexican, but this section will not be limited to those two types. I do believe however, that the most important part of my site will be the dedication pages. These will be to memorialize special loved ones and friends, as well as thank those that have made purchases of my afore-mentioned book. This is exactly what you think it is. A way for me to sell my self as a writer. Publicly get my words and thoughts out into the world. Please believe me when I say that this in no way demeans or diminishes my passions for the people and the love of which I have written, and will continue to write. I trust that once you read my poems you will feel the love i have felt, the pains I have been through, and the joys of life itself. Once again I thank you for stopping by please enjoy.


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