…….and there it is. The all imprudent whine of those that want to deny any and all involvement in their own down fall. Whether it is related to the job, the relationship, or even something as trivial as a sandlot ballgame. Nobody and I mean nobody wants to take the blame. Yes..I have been there myself. I believe that my own experiences make it not only my right but my duty to put this info out there.
Before one can move on into a better relationship, job, etc….One has to admit their own mistakes. This is what enables us as human beings to move on from our past and into the future. Even if those mishaps are minimal. It is imperative that we admit we made mistakes. Now, I am not saying that you have to write the New York Times and confess all. I am merely pointing out the fact that we all need to remind ourselves that even though we may have put in “one hundred and ten percent” of our time and effort. Somewhere along the way we did something wrong.
As you decide to move on with your life think about what may have gone wrong somewhere. Then really dig into your psyche and figure out the four w’s. What, why, when, and where. What was it you think you may have done wrong. Why you did it. When the mishap occurred. Finally where you were in your life that allowed you to be this way.
By the way as I said earlier no one wants to take the blame for their mistakes. Please keep in mind that no one else wants to take the blame either. As you may feel the need to finger point, let me point out myself. The idea that most finger pointers are usually guilty of something. They are merely trying to distract the attention to someone else.